Short women for short men dating
We love them, we hate them, and sometimes we date them. But even me — a gal of 5 feet and 4 inches — has problems. When you're out in public and people look at you, you wonder if they're thinking that you're a girl with a short boyfriend.
A girl who is 5'9″ is obviously going to think most guys are pretty f*cking short. Once you're towering over him, he's ready for you to get back down to his level.
You try to ignore it, but it's just always an issue. You have a whole new insecurity that you never could have predicted: He makes you feel like a f*cking giant. Then this wouldn't be an issue, and you could go on your merry way without constantly stressing yourself out.
You have to put away your heels and just resign yourself to wearing ballet flats for all eternity.
He wasn't exactly shorter than me, but he had maaaaaaaybe an inch on me. There's nothing wrong with dating a guy who's shorter than you, but it does come with its difficulties. He'll constantly ask you why you always wear flats.
Or guys can also be completely dismissive once they see me in person and say, "You seem much taller in your photos" or "I didn't realize how short you were until you got off that stool." I recently had one guy actually look over my head to see if the person he was meeting was someone else besides me. But of course in a completely contradictory way, I'm usually attracted to men who are much, much taller than I am.
So I guess opposites attract, or I just enjoy the awkward interactions/comical antics of doing activities with someone much taller than I? Standing out (physically) my whole life has led me to be much more confident and fearless of being different. There are definitely a lot of great guys who only see six feet as one small part of who I am.
While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.
In a society where there are ideals of femininity and masculinity, it can be difficult for individuals who don't fit neatly into those boxes.
Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.